Posted by: Zane Maser | March 23, 2013


The trees of a forest appear separate aboveground.
Belowground they are interconnected through miles of
a filamentous network of mycorrhizal fungus.
The forest is an interactive, interdependent system.


A few month’s ago the husband of a sweet neighbor passed on. They were like two peas in a pod—inseparably 24/7—and seldom did much apart from each other. When his terminal illness took him from her visible presence and sight into the inner world of spirit, she was shattered. She is still devastated in ways no one on the outside can truly comprehend, even if we have experienced similar losses.

Appearances never tell the story. We may think or feel we know what it looks like from the outside. But we never, ever know what’s actually transpiring inwardly or why. In this specific example, we never know what useful “soul” purpose this “apparent separation” is serving for her growth and his now liberated spirit or for their family and friends—or neighbors, for that matter.

Each person’s expression of deepest suffering and grief is uniquely their own, in their own way, in their own timing. No matter what it looks like on the outside, when spiritually discerned, events and circumstances in our lives happen perfectly and move forward according to a Purposeful Plan for all involved.


What we can do is light a candle in our hearts for a neighbor whose pain is real, asking the Healing Light of Heaven to enfold her, so that she feels, even if only on the subconscious level, that she’s not alone in her anguish, solitude, and heightened vulnerability. Like the forest, life is about inclusion, as there is indeed no such thing as exclusion in a Universe of Omnipresent Divinity. The Sanskrit mantra “Tat Tvam Asi” further affirms: “I see the other in myself and myself in others.” We can love with non-interference, supporting her in a way(s) she needs, giving her space to have her own process of grief and gradual healing, rather than trying to change its course or put our overlays of “shoulds” on it in hopes she’ll be more “functional” or in line with what grief is suppose to look like at the four-month marker. When she is ready to reach out from her tender state, we can be there.

Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly
not born until they arrive, and it is only by
this meeting that a new world is born.
Anaïs Nin

Until then, we can hold her in the energy of love while her heart slowly mends. Sometimes there is simply nothing we can do at an outer level, because the person signals she wants to be left to her self, undisturbed in the privacy of her home. But there is much cherishment and assistance we can give on an inner level. White Eagle reminds us that it is not always the person “who stands on the platform” in front of all eyes who is “necessarily doing the most valuable work. …the simple soul working quietly in the background to help others is as valuable as the person who leads. All are one in the eyes of God.” All sharing of our spiritual gifts and service lovingly given is equal.

The simple things are also the most extraordinary things,
and only the wise can see them.
Paulo Coelho

Because we are all manifestations of the One Consciousness—the Divine Life unfolding individually—my steadiness, compassionate understanding, and love flow to my neighbor’s mourning heart as another part of the One Consciousness. This is the same principle the Master Jesus used to heal those in need. The person did not have to be in his immediate presence, like the Roman soldier’s servant, to be healed fully. Jesus could direct and send rays of light from his heart, as Love creates healing rays of Light.

Neither do I need to audibly speak a comforting word to my neighbor, in her presence, to be of kindly service to her. The inner message to help another, caring about another’s state of emotions or mind, loving another gets transmitted heart to heart. When we request help or ask for another (or ourselves), according to the Teachings of Abraham™, “it is always given,” because “Source hears and answers your request.” The more we are loving in this moment the more LOVE becomes the dominant, vibrational signature on Earth.

Perfect kindness acts without thinking of kindness.
Lao Tzu

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• The River of Grief

• Shrouded in “A Dark Night”

• Sharing Heals the Heart

• Venturing Out

• Resilience

• Approach and Avoidance

• That Could Be Me

• The World is in our Neighborhood

• Every Moment Is A Gift

• Homeward Her Journey

• Families in Spirit

• Remembrance Day

Text © by Zane Maser, 2013. Photos © by Chris and Zane Maser, 2013. All rights reserved worldwide.

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My editorial guru and technological wizard is Chris Maser, my delightful husband.

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